New Beginnings Start with D. Scott Pappas
Throughout North Central Oklahoma!
Families change over time.
Whether adding a new family member, deciding to care for a family member or person in need, or facing the end of your marriage, D. Scott Pappas wants to help you through your journey. Scott was divorced when her daughter was young, now has a blended family and is blessed with grandchildren. She has experienced a lot of what you are facing now. Her firm has the years of experience, dedication and integrity needed to provide you reliable and well-trusted legal services with establishing custody and or paternity, an adoption, a guardianship, a name change, a divorce, a legal separation, a problem with child support, or if your child or grandchild is now in DHS custody and more!
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Maybe you have an issue that you haven’t been able to resolve on your own.
D. Scott Pappas is a proven mediator, who has helped countless people come together to work out problems that have kept friends, business relationships and family members at odds from each other for way too long! Coming soon, you will be able to participate without having to come into an office.
We can also refer you to attorneys who can help you in other areas of law, such as obtaining your Social Security disability benefits, bringing or defending a civil lawsuit, mounting a defense to your criminal issue and more.
Let Scott and her firm be there now to turn your life’s most challenging moments into new beginnings!
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Pro Se with Limited Representation
Pro Se with Limited Representation
Pro Se means you do everything by yourself without an attorney. The forms that you get from those who are not attorneys are not always accurate for your county or detailed enough to protect all of your rights – especially if you have children! Our legal ethics have changed so we can now offer a limited scoped representation for a flat fee. I would enter my appearance, but only in a limited capacity. You still do all the leg work, but working with our firm in this process, you will learn all of the issues that you need to cover in your final document, receive the needed Decree fully tailored to your situation, plus, learn how to present, file and distribute it.
Here, both parties hire a neutral, third party to assist them in reaching an agreement that meets the needs of everyone without the financial and emotional cost of a court battle. I so believe in this process because it empowers both parties to work for a resolution that can be tailored to your particular situation, not just what is routinely ordered, and it can start the healing process – really! It provides a safe environment for the parties to share their concerns and finally be heard by the other party, to find common ground and to make concessions so that the end product is something both parties crafted. When people actually work to agreement, those agreements are longer lasting than those imposed upon them by a judge. I started mediating the last semester of law school. We trained at the Small Claims Court in Manhattan. It reminded me of the old television show, Night Court, because the bailiff ran the process as judges rotated in and out on certain nights. People from all walks of life were there to work through a myriad of disputes. There were no offices or chairs – just a maze of corridors behind the courtroom. The mediator took the 2, warring parties, found a spot along the hallway and began the magic. It didn’t matter if the mediation lasted 15 minutes or 2 hours, we stayed in the same place. But it worked and it can work for you, too!
Any Issue by Agreement
This process is for parties that truly can proceed by agreement, but may have a few issues left to resolve. I can only represent one of the parties and do enter my appearance on behalf of that person. The other party would proceed Pro See (without an attorney), but is free to hire his or her own attorney at any time during the process, should the need arise. We start the action by filing the initial pleadings; have the other party enter a Waiver that is also filed; discuss and resolve all the issues in your particular case; and, then, draft the final Decree. Said Decree is given to both parties to review and changes are made, as needed. Once both parties have approved the final Decree, a date is set to enter it before a judge. Original actions require at least one party (but both of you would be welcome) to appear with me before the judge to enter your agreement. In post-decree actions, such as modifications, I am the only person that has to appear. Thereafter, the Decree or Journal Entry is filed and distributed to each party. The last document filed is a Certificate of Service, which provided proof to the court of the date that the Decree was served on the Pro Se party. This step is important as the date the other party receives his or her filed copy of the Decree is the start of the 30 days in which he or she could appeal the Decree. Once that 30 days has elapsed, it is much harder to do so, if at all.
When you want to think outside the traditional box and come away from the process more fully prepared to start your life anew, then this process is for you. You are part of team with trained professionals to resolve disputes respectfully, without going to court. Your team will be comprised of you, your attorney, the other party, his or her attorney, plus:
A financial expert to help you really understand the lifestyle you had, the financial impact of the decisions you face and your financial future after the process ends; and,
A mental health coach because we all know how to push each other’s buttons and because your case is emotionally complicated.
You must agree to certain core elements that distinguish this process from the others, including:
Negotiating a mutually acceptable settlement without using a court to decide any issues for you;
Engaging in open communication and information sharing and not hiding assets, debts or important information;
Creating shared solutions that work for both parties; and,
Disqualifying all the other team members from representing you or being a witness for you, if the process fails and you end up going to court.
Your team will meet multiple times. It won’t be easy, depending on how much disagreement has to be overcome. You’ll have homework between meetings. And, if after all this support, you really can’t reach an agreement, then you will have to hire new attorneys to start down the litigation process. How expensive it will be, depending on how long it takes to work the process (and you maintain control of that time period). But, if you do reach agreement, you will be more prepared to go forward in your new life than any other process.
You know how this process works – you’ve seen it unfold on lots of shows! Both parties hire attorneys, who then advocate based on the personal needs and viewpoints of his or her client. Sometimes people just can’t agree on a particular issue or just aren’t ready to work with the other side for any reason so this process is necessary. Also, some parties only resolve some of their issues in Mediation or By Agreement, so the remaining issue(s) are set for trial, which limits the downsides listed next.
The downsides to litigation include, without limitation:
a. That it is one of the most expensive ways to proceed;
b. That the judge controls the outcome,
c. That the process is open to the public;
d. That you don’t have any control over how fast or slow the case proceeds; and,
e. That, in proving your side of the case, damning information about the other side is often revealed making it harder for each of you to want to be around each other going forward.
If you have to have a relationship with the other party in the future because you have children, are family or work together, then proceed with caution in choosing this process.
Serving 6+ Counties
808 South Main Street
(in the BancFirst Building at 8th & Main)
Stillwater, OK 74074
Monday - Friday: 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. and By Appointment for Additional Times
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Saturday - Sunday: By Appointment
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